Don't be the cheese

 

Part 1 

1. Communication : key to life 2. Affirmation is Power : lubricate relationship 

3. The warm experience : smile when u meet people, use people name more than usual, respect people title (value them) 

4. The esteem attitude : learn to be humble * philliphians

Don't be the cheese Part 2 Building quality relationships *ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (two people are better than one)

The most revered word - mother. 

*Sad word, forgotten The most beautiful word - love. *Comfortable word, Faith 

*The most bitter word - alone *The warmest word - friendship

Community comes before couple: - Before there was a couple, there was a community. ( community 1 st, couple 2 nd)

Proverbs 12:26 the righteous should choose his friends carefully 

Proverbs 13:20 he walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of tools 

Proverbs 27:19 just as water mirrors your face, so your face mirror *close friends are mirror of your choice. 

there is power in friendship, choose properly, they can either make success or failure.

How to find a true Friendship 1. Loving (proverbs 17:17) - love us of simple fact of who we are 

2. Consistent (proverbs 27:10) - a friend is someone who comes in when the whole world go out. 

3. Forgiving (proverbs 17:9) - getting hurt is part of the relationship, but the lovely things is the power of forgiving Learn to forgive by : * acknowledge your hurt ( learn to admit) - until you admit you are not ready the journey of forgiveness 

* don't plan revenge ( when u choose this already open the door for forgiveness) 

* move on ( forgiveness is a process, healing is a journey) - the pain will be there but you have to choose to move on - if not choose to move on, will back to first step with two door there 

4. Confidential (Proverbs 11:13) - a faithful friends doesn't share your secret 

5. Sharpening (proverbs 27:17) - a good friends make u better not bitter 

- accepts who you are and still invite you to grow

VRPs, very resourceful person -People who Ignite our passion VIPs, very important person - people who Share our passion VNPs, very nice person - people who Enjoy our passion VDPs, very daring people - people who Sap our passion

6. Sensitive (they knows when to give space) 

- don't be too close too soon, give space 

7. Honest (proverbs 27:5-6) ( proverbs 24:26) 

- speak the truth for our benefit

Don't be the cheese Part 3 Romans 8:32, proverbs 11:30 - god not want us to win him to religious but to win relationship with him and people. 

* relationship is the network for life! > we need quality of relationship rather than quantity of relationship in life.

(We need to define our relationship) 

4 Stages: 

1. Introduction Stage - limited information (not friend yet) 

2. Acquaintance Stage - choose to get to know the person more (information share but not internal information) 

3. Friendship Stage - you willing to share your more internal information with them (the truth of the person, the mask came off) 

4. Intimacy Stage - you become totally worn arable

8 types of relationship need to be avoid:

- when mix with them very fast will be negative. 

- have ability to make you be a child. 

- known as toxic people 

1. Mr or Miss Manipulative - these people have a gift not from god 

2. Mr or Miss Narcissistic - extreme sense of self important (believe all the world around them) 

3. Mr or Miss Downers - the glasses are always half empty with them (joy sucker, negative people) 

4. Mr or Miss Judgmental - they like to put people down (judging everything in your life, always see the wrong things) 5. Mr or Miss Dream Killer - always tell you dream cannot come true, kill your dream because they cant do it 

6. Mr or Miss Insincere - create shallow, meaningless relationship (they wont be there when problems come, they not good to you, make you fail and see you fail they feel happy) 

7. Mr or Miss Disrespectful - tell out your secret (busybody, dick out your secret, don't respect your privacy and don't care your feeling) 

8. Mr or Miss Never Enough - they are takers in life, you always give them but they never return, take you for granted (constantly thinking they are world win people)

1 Corinthians 15:33 Judges 16:15-17